What it is
What it isn’t
When you start to practice self-compassion you will find you take better care of yourself, you make time for those things that sooth you. You learn how to nurture yourself and fulfill your own needs, whether those needs are for rest, nutrition, quiet, seeking out worthwhile companionship and affection, whatever you need to make your life a happy and healthy one.
And as you work at self-compassion it becomes easier to be there for others, easier to be fully present. You can better intuit what the people in your life are going through and what they might need from you when you’ve practiced on yourself.
How to practice self-compassion
This voice is the first thing to accept. Not in an “it’s all good” kind of way, but it a starting place kind of way. When you hear this voice, try saying, “There it is again (or, there’s that bitch again!). What would be a more compassionate response to what I’m going through?”
It takes real work, and it’s worth every effort. By practicing self-compassion, you are practicing stepping back into witness consciousness. You are recognizing that you are not the voice in your head but something much greater. The voice in your head can change. You can change it with practice, with diligence, with love.